I guess I get triggers from my "blog-bys" but I was checking out Sivads blog and the issue of "things we do for men" came up. I don't do much anymore from a traumatic experience in the 80's. It's funny how the lives of others can trigger memories but anyway,.....
It was 1986, I was dating a guy named LeRoy (pronounced La-Roi (when he knew it was Lee-roy)). I don't know how long we dated, maybe a month or two, but in high school it was serious. We were in love. I had his jacket and class ring. I was "THIS" close to walking down the aisle. Anyway, we were to exchage gifts for Christmas. I worked at the Mall. In the 80's, Coca Cola Clothes were the BOMB! I purchased a Coca-Cola Jersey for him. I saved all my money just to get that jersey (i wanted it for myself so you know it was flyy). Then, it was time to trade gifts. The man I could invision being married to accepted his jersey with such joy and happiness. I knew, he knew how much I cared. Then it was time for me to see how much he cared for me. He handed me this HUGE box. My eyes lit up because I knew my gift would be just as good. I tore all the paper and broke open the box. My smile quickly turned to a WTF look and what did I see? A thin ass flowered shirt with a f-ing BROACH in the middle! There wasn't even a LIMITED tag on it (and you know, in the 80's, EVERYTHING had to come from The Limited, EXPRESS, Benneton or ESPRIT) WTF! I got you Coca-Cola Clothes and you got me this? (excuse the materialism but i WAS in high school, MAN!) Since then, I vowed to never buy gifts to impress a guy if I was supposed to get one in return.....I ALWAYS GET JIPPED!
**The lesson**Unless you are already married, have kids, best friend or you don't care about the crap you get......DON'T DO IT! Oh yeah, he never got his jacket back. He had to learn. I know I'm wrong, but oh well.
I know it's bad. I can hold a grudge. If I saw him today, I would think,...."Yeah, you are the one that gave me that cheap ass shirt!" He will forever go down in the crappy boyfriend hall of fame with "THE CHEAPNESS!" over his head. Has someone ever burst your bubble with a crappy gift? Do you feel jipped when you have to swap names and you are supposed to spend $10bucks on a gift and you know darn well the person that pulled your name got your gift from the 99cent store? Am I wrong for feeling this way? Truthfully, I have grown from this experience and I am not as bitter. I take pride in the gifts I purchase for people. But thanks to "The Cheapness," I am slightly scarred.
###this just in,....KELLY won on the Apprentice tonight. EVA, Kelly,....do you think we can do 3 out of 3 and Moe is the biggest loser?##########